There is little value in repeatedly being kind to an entitled person—someone who only takes from others and never feels the need to give back. It is important to watch out for such people. They may not have much themselves, yet they can make you feel guilty for not having enough to give them. SomeContinue reading “Be Kind, But Guide Your Kindness With Wisdom”
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WHEN COMPETITION BECOMES THE MEASURE OF OUR WORTH
There is a disturbing observation I have made, and that is the competitive attitude of the typical African man. The competition itself is not the issue; my major concern is where and at what rate it occurs. I was having a conversation yesterday with a colleague when she told me about a friend who worksContinue reading “WHEN COMPETITION BECOMES THE MEASURE OF OUR WORTH”
WHEN YOU CHOOSE YOUR PARTNER, CHOOSE YOUR FAMILY
It was in the early hours of Saturday morning, at approximately 6 a.m., that neighbours gathered around Eric’s corner of the apartment. The children were crying in the background, while Mama Chikamso could be heard hurling insults and calling Eric names. Sometimes, it is difficult to understand where the malice or anger people have towardsContinue reading “WHEN YOU CHOOSE YOUR PARTNER, CHOOSE YOUR FAMILY”
WHAT HAPPENED TO OUR FAMILY SYSTEM?
There was once a community of people who loved and cherished one another. My people, there was a time when we all lived together—no big fences, no fear of one another. It was a period when hearing the voice of your neighbour ignited happiness; a time when men gathered together in their ebete, obi, orContinue reading “WHAT HAPPENED TO OUR FAMILY SYSTEM?”
Appreciate them now they still live.
Many people wait until someone is gone before they shower them with love and appreciation. It is even more concerning today, as we seem to have embraced a culture of celebration instead of mourning when we lose our loved ones. I don’t know whose idea it was that the only time to paint or tileContinue reading “Appreciate them now they still live.”
How Good Is Your Sacrifice?
There is no doubt that it is easier to think positively, remain optimistic, and be hopeful about life and the future. However, it is also true that we can become pessimistic and lost in thought when everything is not going according to plan. Nevertheless, the advice has always been to pick yourself up and keepContinue reading “How Good Is Your Sacrifice?”
Ubiquitous Assimilation
Learning the Art of Questioning Information Our people have a saying: “He who always asks questions does not lose his way.” Over the years, experience has shown that those who ask questions—questions that others may sometimes laugh at in class—often develop a deeper understanding than those who simply accept information without critical examination. I rememberContinue reading “Ubiquitous Assimilation”
The Culture of Convenience
Igbo people have a saying that when a sacrilege is allowed to endure for too long, children eventually mistake it for culture. Have you not noticed how the culture of convenience is gradually eating us all away? The idea of replacing hard work with smart work is increasingly being confused with a total loss ofContinue reading “The Culture of Convenience”
What Kind of Person Are You?
The death of Caesar could not have been as painful if he had been murdered only by his enemies. He was truly broken when he saw that Brutus was among those stabbing him. At that point, the pain was no longer physical—it had become psychological and emotional. The recent killing of a UniJos student overContinue reading “What Kind of Person Are You?”
Good Intentions Are Not Always Good Outcomes: A Lesson on Avoiding Unintentional Harm.
There are three aspects of our existence I want to draw your attention to: behaviour, identity, and intention. Many times, we are unaware of how our well-intended actions negatively affect others. We may mean well, but our behaviour can still cause harm if it does not align with the needs or expectations of the personContinue reading “Good Intentions Are Not Always Good Outcomes: A Lesson on Avoiding Unintentional Harm.”
