Pen it down.

Pause and think about the realities of life.

After all these struggles then what? ,many a times I kept on asking myself ,why are we really in this world?.
We grew up to find ourselves in a family; Science, religion and people around made us believe that we are related and that we should do things together.
The real truth is that we are all alone despite how we try to see it.
Take for instance ,everything that happens in this life is individualised, happiness, sadness, sickness, frustration, success even death, everyone has his own challenges to face. our paths may cross but our lane differs.
What makes you happy saddens the other person. Everyone wants the best for himself, (me ,myself and I) before any other person.
The bitter truth is , nothing in life is truly yours not even the life you have, if that is the case, why torment others with the position you find yourself .
We all are living a borrowed life. The only thing we should be concerned about is improving ourselves. You are all you’ve got, being too serious in life deprives you of the opportunity of being yourself.
Learn to appreciate, love, value and respect yourself; only when you see yourself as a worthwhile person , that people will do the same.
Work hard to improve yourself ,be the person you will be proud of tomorrow ( nothing in life last, we don’t live but exist, to live in the heart of many is to live forever). It is pertinent to know that in life character is more important and more rewarding than reputation.
Character shows how well you have improved while reputation is how people think you have improved.. in other words you use reputation to measure the degree of improvement you attain everyday of your life.
It doesn’t mean you should live based on people’s opinion. Those who live every day based on people’s opinion tends to loose themselves completely.
Every morning, we wake up, ready for our daily activities, go out for work, meet people, come back and rest and start all over again ; someday you will sleep and you won’t wake up ,what you see where ever you might be, nobody knows except you.
So, my dear, guard your heart with all diligence because from it comes the issues of life.
Live everyday of your life bearing in mind that you are alone ; if you fail, you fail for yourself and others, when you succeed you succeed for yourself and others.
Every person in this world was created for a purpose, and someone somewhere needs your gift to survive and achieve his own ambition. It is true that you are alone ,but you have some responsibility to fulfil during your life time.
My point is, before you can actually achieve your life’s purpose, you must first develop yourself , prepare yourself and become what you preach, because we see things the way we are and not really the way things are.
Everyone lives his life based on his opinion or perception of life.

These are the moral guides and principles, one must abide by inorder to live a happy life for oneself and others. Morality is Christianity.
1) Whatever he asked you to do, do it: this was a message from blessed virgin Mary to the disciples of Jesus Christ during the wedding at cana( John 2). This is one of the most important virtue in the law of God. Obedient, I know my sheep and my sheeps knows me. If you want enjoy this life,it is pertinent you know that the life you are living is not your own, you should always remember that someday you will be no more,if you constantly remind yourself of this,you will have no reason to keep malice,nor live yourself life as one that doesn’t know his or her worth, you will stop making yourself so cheap before the things of this world.
Things of this world passes by, but the love and faithfulness of God endureth for ever.
Think on how stressful it is to commit sin , quarrel and betray people..but everything that Jesus Christ gives us, is free, yet we run after things that will not help us in life.
Obedient to the law of God and practical aspect of Christianity is the first principle of morality of life. The world teaches revenge, Jesus taught us to forgive and forget, the world teaches money is everything, Jesus taught us to seek first the kingdom of God,then every other thing shall be added unto us.
NB: seeking the kingdom of God doesn’t mean sleeping in the church, waiting for manner to fall from heaven, remember the book of James 2vs 14-16 , said that ” faith without work is useless….” And Galatians said,you shall reap whatever you sow,

That simply means that for you to obey God you must do your everyday work, your career, your business and everything that you desire in a way that portrays Christ Jesus as author and finisher of your faith.
So brethren, God’s will is for us to have life and have it in abundance,let us obey him and his grace will never depart from us.
Jesus have lived and died for us, leaving us an example to follow, we cannot not remain in sin for his forever, its a time to obey him..this book of law shall never depart from your mouth, meditate on it day and night..the word of God is your authority as a child of God.
2)Do not judge so that you won’t be judged Matthew7:1: what judging here means is that you shouldn’t condemn anyone, before you do that, put yourself in the persons shoes, you can condemn what he did, but not the person that did it, knowing that if you are in the same condition as the person,you might do worse than him.
Mysteriously,what we see in others is ourself. We are what we think of others,God beckons on us to be tolerable, we are all different, act differently, grew up in different environment, let us learn to see and treat people the way they should be rather than the way they are.
Condemning people have not really minimize crimes and attrocities, the reverse is always the case. Before you separate fight,first of all prevent quarrel.
Pray for people you think they are not doing well,help them grow,the world would have been a better place if prisons were social institutions of learning, rehabilitation center, where social offenders will be people will be given guidance , direction and a program of opportunity.

To correct their mistakes, undergo psychological training,and come out to be a better person,but most people who have been to prison normally end up committing crimes worse than what made him enter their earlier. Pray for one another..
3)Love your neighbor as your love yourself: who are you? , Why are you in this world, what is your worth?.. many people claim they love themselves while they don’t even know whom they are, and what they can do.
You know, no one will look down on you without your permission. Your opinion about yourself and what you believe about yourself is what really matter in this life.
Whatever you consistently and persistently attaches the word ” I am” to that’s what you are. I am a success, winner,loser,the best, great etc that’s exactly who you are.
You must learn to appreciate yourself, encourage yourself, be there for yourself, because you are all you’ve got.
It is when you have equipped and developed yourself that you can actually do that for others. Jesus taught us to remove the plank in our eyes before removing the toothpick In the other person’s eyes.
My brothers and sisters, the will of God for us is of good and not of evil,then the question is what is your own dream, plan, will and vision for your self. If you can see it in your mind, you can have it in your hand.. just have to be yourself and grow with any little opportunity you have.
In summary, to live happily and still make heaven,you must learn to obey God, pray for your friends and enemies, this people we see as our enemies are people challenging us to be ourselves,when people tell you is not possible,it can’t be done,is the more you should be absolutely determined to prove them wrong. Love yourself,take care of yourself, wish yourself well, encourage yourself, and never give up on yourself..you are all you have got, there is nothing impossible except the ones we accept as impossible,you just have to find a way to it..if your mind can conceive it, your heart believe it, then you can achieve it..thank you.

Everyone in this life wants to be happy. Everyone wants to be respected and value.The easiest way of being happy is to make another person happy. Treat anyone as you would want people to treat you. You can’t buy happiness, money can’t make you happy if actually you don’t use it to put a smile on people’s face. In other words,for you to be truly happy you must learn to give,share with people around you. According to the book of Romans 12:13,share with the Lord’s people who are in need, “practice hospitality”.

Charity : this is the giving without remembering ,it is not giving for the sake of giving but because it is necessary and for the very best of the receiver. Blessed charity is done to open door for oneself, it is best done when you don’t really have enough. It is best way of being a practical Christian.

James 2: 14-17 , made it clear that faith without work is dead. He asked,suppose a brother or sister is without clothes and daily food. If one of you says to them ,Go in peace; keep warm and well fed,but does nothing about their physical needs,what good is it? In the same way faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action is dead. Charity is the expression of ones faith. We are all here for all of us. What ever you have that others don’t have , do not hesitate to help. We are in the era when someone will be drowning instead of helping him, people will be taking selfie of him. In whatever you are doing in this life never forget these words from Hebrews 6:10,God is not unjust; he will not forget your work and the love you have shown him as you have helped his people and continue to help them.in luke3:10-11,the crowd asked ,what should we do then?, John answered, anyone who has two shirts should share with the one who has none, and anyone who has food should do the same. This is all we need to be happy and be a good Christian..

Forgiveness: this is the act of letting go of anything that someone did to hurt your ego. It is the best revenge your enemy can get or least expected from you. Forgiveness is the only way of avoiding stress related illnesses, it lightens life burdens. If you want to be happy,learn how to forgive yourself and others. It will make your path straight and make you flourish in life.

Lawrence stern said, only the brave know how to forgive…A coward never forgives,it is not in his nature, happiness is a choice ,it is what we decide in advance. Learn to forgive so that you can be forgiven..if God should count our inquity ,who shall stand before him..No one!

Lastly ,to be happy never compare yourself without anyone, instead compare yourself with what you are capable of becoming that you have not really achieved. Our paths may cross, but your lane is your lane. No one was ever great trying to be another person. You are you..and that’s what makes you special. Once you discover yourself,use it to serve God and humanity,don’t waste your life trying to be another person. Don’t expect anything from anyone,you are responsible for your own life. He who chooses the beginning of a road ,choose where it leads to. There is a way to everything,you just have to find out what you can do best and put all your might in it..failure is a path of least persistence..be yourself ,help others ,learn to forgive and always remember that you are not impeccable too,so in the journey of life it is better to travel light..unraven all your grudges and you will be happy and healthy. Be positive and never stop doing good to people…no matter how little it is ,learn to put a smile on people’s face and smile will never leave your own face.

Life

Life is an opportunity, given to us by God to serve him and humanity;

The idea was to use things of vanity to gain happiness in enternity;

To change people’s life through prayers and charity;

To be less of verbal Christians and do more of practical Christianity;(obodoechi onuora James)

Thank you never stop being positive!!

One of the weakness of a man is his inability to discover himself. The first step of succeeding in life is mastering your self. Accepting your self the way you are, knowing that you are fearfully and wonderfully made.

In every seed there is a tree;

In every bird, a flock;

In every fish a school;

In every boy a man;

In every girl a woman; in every nation a generation.

Tragedy strikes when a tree dies in a seed, a man in a boy, a woman in a girl, an idea in a mind. For untold millions, vision die unseen, songs die unsung, plan die unexecuted and future die buried in the past.(Munroe)

This is so true as many of us don’t know the power (potentials) in us,many at times we wish we are another person. According to proverb 23:7, if you can conceive it, you can do it(if you can think it, you can do it). This is the power am talking about. The power we possess as a child of God. in letter of st Paul to the phillipians 4: 13, you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. You have the power to do anything and Jesus is the authority upon which you can exercise that power. In John 4:4, greater is he that is in you than he that is in the world. You have everything you need to succeed. You just have to discover it, discover yourself..ask your self, who am I? If you are able to answer this question,then you are surely going to make it.

A child of God can only be defeated when he stops praying. Bible said we should pray without season. In whatever you do , put me first then I direct your path ( proverb 3:5-6). a prayerful child of God is a powerful child of God, a prayerless child of God is a powerless child of God. The power within is activated with prayer. Let’s look at what happened in the book of Ezekiel chapter 37, the valley of dry bones,the spirit of God ,led Ezekiel to this valley, and God ask him a question, mortal man can these bones live again?? ,God is asking you the same question today, is there anything difficult for me to do? Is it your exams, family issues, financial breakthrough, life of holiness, what is it? The Bible said in mark 10:27 ,there is nothing impossible for God to do,in sirach 10: 21, it is possible for God to make poor man suddenly and instantly rich, Deuteronomy 28:13,you shall be the first and not the last, you shall be above only and not the beneath and he concluded it in Malachi 3:6 I am the lord, I do not change. What was Ezekiel’s answer?,he believed that the bones can live again, only if God say so. God instructed him to prophesy to those bones and he did, the dry bones came back to life. Ezekiel have the power but God gave him the authority to use it. Whatever you do in life don’t live your authority behind. Cut off from me ,you can do nothing,I am the vine and you are my branches.

Believe in yourself today,know that Christ lives in you and that there is nothing impossible for him to do.

What ever you do in life, prepare prayerfully,plan purposefully, proceed positively and pursue persistently.

Prayer.

A divine means of communication;

Between men and God;

A period of heart meditation;

That can melt the strongest rod,

In all that you do,pray;

All your intentions you must declare,

With strong faith in God,it’s clear,

All that you require and desire,

Will be granted unto you by the Messiah.

Never give room to the enemy of prayer;

Sin,so simple but a silent killer,

Appears harmless but very disastrous;

But is powerless compare to your power in the name of Jesus. (James obodoechi).

What

Virtually every girl wants to get married. Infact from this part of the country once you are up to 18 yrs , suitors will begin to troop in and out of your house. Ministries and some men of God are not even helping matters. All their prophesies are centred on automatic prosperity and happiness..but the truth is whether you believe it or not some people are not marriable. What is your goal of getting married? Is because your mates are all married,you want a name, you want to have your own kids, escape from family problems and shame, correct your mum’s mistake of marrying your father..whatever be your reason of trying to marry ,pause and think on the following things..are you a man or a woman, what thought have you had before trying to settle down? Ponder on these few points..
1) are you an asset or a liability: many women out there are liabilities to their husbands because the husband have everything they want or need, they tend to forget their own goal in life. You don’t contribute to the welfare of the family. The man is the head of the family but the wife is the neck, without the support of the neck ,do you think the head will achieve anything or even do well?
Make yourself an asset. Make your spouse value you. Don’t plan to be a full time house wife..get a job that can help you be close to your children,you can be a teacher, nurse, doctor etc don’t allow your own dream to die because you get married or because you want to marry a rich man.

Help your spouse grow in whatever he or she is doing..have the mindset of improving your spouse. Don’t marry because you want to be free from stress, life heaviest burden is to have nothing to carry. Before you get married , evaluate yourself and know whether you are an asset or a liability to yourself and the person you want to marry.. whether you are a man or a woman.
2)what kind of parent will you be: many people don’t know that you decide in advance the kind of parent(s) you will be to your children. Will you be the type that curses them the way your own parents did to you?, forgetting how you felt those days your parents do call you names. Many parents are the reason why their children didn’t go far in life. According to Micheal and Debi Pearl, children need a mother who teaches them, not a teacher who doesn’t have the emotional energy to mother them; young men need a father who teaches them to work, not a father too busy working to teach them. The best schooling for children is a good home life not a home that is all school.
If you grew up under parents who doesn’t care.. decide to care for your own children, if your parents treated you well ,be more to your children. Never compare your child with anyone, everyone is unique and different in their own way. Determine to be a good parent to your children to come and a good spouse to your partner to come too. Don’t make your children scared of saying the truth.

Most of the mistakes our parents made and some are still making is punishing their children when they say the truth and warning them when they lie. Without training a child first, discipline is insufficient. Training is the conditioning of the child’s mind before the crisis arises. Training is not discipline, discipline only occurs when we fail to train our children.
3) what do you have for your spouse?: This is a very important question everyone should ask his or her self. In the olden days virginity was a virtue every woman works to keep but in this present generation it is lack of opportunity. How do you expect to build trust when you have lost your dignity. You won’t blame anyone though because many things are happening now that was not happening in the olden days but you still have to be yourself,know what you want, develop self control and self respect..make yourself adorable and respectful. Don’t be like every other person. The two quick ways to failure is taking nobody’s advice and taking everybody’s advice. Many people are still virgins because of their attitude- remember your attitude determines your altitude, it doesn’t end in not knowing a man. If you are a virgin but a nagging wife or husband you will end up destroying your marriage..oh how wonderful it will be that you are a virgin spouse with a good attitude. It doesn’t really ends in being a virgin, you must be a woman of substance, industrious woman, responsible man, caring and understanding father.

Have a surprise package for your spouse, determine to be everything worthwhile to him or her.
4)what does marriage mean to you?:if you enter marriage because you want to be free from family stress, you want to change class, and so on..all of them are good but the main essence of marriage is procreation. Marriage is the avenue for continuing God’s work of creation. It is an opportunity of making life. Marriage is entirely different friendship.. though friendship is necessary in marriage because it is what keeps you and spouse together during the time of stress in marriage. Marriage is a task and as such it is not a dance a child dances with snuff in his hands. Think deeply before venturing into it. Marriage was not created to be divorced, so nothing like, let me try and if it not working out, I will quit. Now that you are single is the best time to think about what you really need in your marriage. Be more concern about the character of your supposed spouse than his or her wealth. Find out what you mean to your suppose spouse,read the warning signs. Don’t marry to divorce..think it through. Thank you.

Marriage is the union between a man and a woman who comes together and live as husband and wife, thus becoming one. Marriage is not an ordinary contract rather it is a divine covenant. There is no perfect man made for any woman or perfect woman made for any man. The prayer of every person is for God to give us the right person but there are things God can’t do for us..and it is the things we can do for ourselves. It is good to pray but there are principles you must obey ,imbibe and look out for before you propose or you say yes..these principles can’t do without each other.

principles of marriage

According to Oxford dictionary, principles are the truth or general law that is used as a basis for a theory or system of belief. In other words, principles of marriage are the law that guides marriage.

1. Love: love have been wrongly defined and understood by recent generation. Love have been taken to mean selfishness instead of selflessness. In the book of John 3:16, Jesus showed us the act of true love. For every marriage to work out there must be love- love here means the ability to see in your partner what others cannot see in him or her, the ability to look beyond the physical beauty. You infatuate when what you feel for your spouse is mainly physical. Accepting your spouse flaws and not trying to change him or her according to your own desire,how it will suit you-is what love is all about. Beauty is not that you see with your eyes, it is seen with the mind. You don’t fall in love ,you grow into it. People that fell in love don’t usually stay in love . Material things don’t bring love, kindness, sacrifice, patience, charity are the elements of true love. Love is an expression ,it has to be shown ,is not something you keep in your mind and only you can feel it. Love is patient and it doesn’t end ,so if you love him or her and later you don’t love him..you have never loved him. Be the love you want to see in your marriage. Love is like plant it grows on a fertile soil of quarrel, it’s manure is misunderstanding, to disagree to agree is it’s rainfall but it grows to surpass all these things..when you try to avoid all these things you will never get the love you want. We don’t lose by loving , we lose by holding back..
2. Principle of understanding: this is the ability to see from the other person’s point of view. It is the acknowledgement of the fact that you too is not perfect. Understanding begots forgiveness. It is the ability to know that sometimes misunderstanding is needed for good understanding. True understanding is the ability to see, judge and act. Before you judge anybody take a walk on his shoes. St Augustine when ever he sees a mad man or a beggar ,his exact words are ” this is Augustine if not by grace of God. People are different,act differently ,think differently;the only thing that differentiated us from animals is our ability to reason. Men and women are completely different in their approach to issues, what will keep you married is the understanding of these differences. Women talk about their problems,that is their own way of relieving themselves of their stress,men don’t talk about theirs until they get solution to it.. problem strikes when the woman wants the man to be like her or vice versa..so there is need for proper understanding of your spouse, study him or her,that is the essence of courtship.
3. Faithfulness: before you can be faithful to someone you must first of all be faithful to yourself.life is understood backwards but must be lived forward. Same is applied in marriage. Your experiences before you get married should not be brought into your marriage. Faithfulness works with the Golden rule: do unto others as you would want them to do unto you. You don’t gain anything by cheating. Proverb admonishes us thus: the lips of another man’s wife may be as sweet as honey and her kisses as smooth as olive oil. But when it is all over, she leaves you nothing but bitterness and pain. She will take you to the world of the dead,the road she walks is the road to death.(proverb 5vs3-14). These applies to both men and women,the grass appears greener on the other side. Instead of going there, change the way you look at or see your marriage and your marriage will change. Remain faithful you don’t gain anything by cheating..
4. Trust. Don’t get married to anyone you don’t trust. If you can’t say to some extent what your spouse can do ; then why marrying him or her. Trust is the confidence or reliance you have on someone or something..the believe that you know what your spouse is capable of doing. You can’t trust anyone if you too is not reliable except when he or she have given you reason not to trust again. Always develop trust for someone you want to spend the rest of your life with and don’t break trust because it is hard to retrieve once lost. If you can obey this four principles and add other virtues to it , then marriage is for you ,but if you can’t be patient enough to apply this principles.. marriage is not for you. In summary, marriage is not something you rush into; money is not one of the foundamentals of marriage ( topic for another day) but is necessary. Before you reap..LOOK!!! Thank you

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