There are three aspects of our existence I want to draw your attention to: behaviour, identity, and intention. Many times, we are unaware of how our well-intended actions negatively affect others. We may mean well, but our behaviour can still cause harm if it does not align with the needs or expectations of the personContinue reading “Good Intentions Are Not Always Good Outcomes: A Lesson on Avoiding Unintentional Harm.”
Category Archives: Mental health and self improvement
Learn to Say NO More Often
“He who fetches ant-infested firewood invites lizards to a feast,” says an Igbo proverb. Another says that a man who does not know how a corpse was buried digs it up from the legs. Take a look at this short story. There was a time when we used to fetch water from a particular streamContinue reading “Learn to Say NO More Often”
Tell Onu Nwanne M That I Am Tired
It was a very hot afternoon when my father called me and gave me the heartbreaking news of Ifeanyi’s passing. He was fondly called Odo Diele, a name that signifies the faithfulness of the Odo deity. According to family history, his father had longed for a son as his last child and promised the deityContinue reading “Tell Onu Nwanne M That I Am Tired”
The Joke Culture
There is growing awareness of what many now call the olodo culture—a culture that glorifies behaviour that lacks moral values. It is reflected in the excessive respect people have for money and those who possess it, as well as the attention given to activities that do not improve us but instead deepen ignorance. Beyond theContinue reading “The Joke Culture”
The fowl response pattern.
There is a pattern I call the fowl response pattern. Whenever a kite snatches a chick from its mother, the hen cries, jumps around, and screams for help. After all the noise, she simply returns to the remaining chicks, almost as if she is waiting for the next attack. The kite does not treat theContinue reading “The fowl response pattern.”
Why Have You Stopped Growing?
There is no doubt that our country and its economy are in one of the worst states they have ever been. Many people struggle to eat, let alone think about self-improvement. There are countless graduates who have never secured a job, cannot create one, or even sustain a small business despite their education, simply becauseContinue reading “Why Have You Stopped Growing?”
The Value of What We Already Have.
The little bird that chooses to perch on a rope should be ready to dance, because when a deity becomes irresponsible, it will be reminded of the tree from which it was carved. It is only an Nza bird that challenges its chi simply because it has had enough to eat, forgetting that what anContinue reading “The Value of What We Already Have.”
A hapu ndu kpaa aku—onye iro eri ya! (Health is Wealth)
The first and perhaps only true determinant of happiness is found in not constantly searching for happiness. Statistics show that the rate at which people consume alcohol has declined significantly, but many have switched to harder substances. While alcohol consumption is not good either, people who are constantly searching for happiness or trying to escapeContinue reading “A hapu ndu kpaa aku—onye iro eri ya! (Health is Wealth)”
Our Disunity Is Their Weapon and Strength
Three brothers fell in love with one beautiful girl. None of them was willing to step aside for the others; each wanted to marry her. The girl, on the other hand, was just as confused as the brothers. She could not choose one over the others because each of them played a unique role inContinue reading “Our Disunity Is Their Weapon and Strength”
Be Authentic and Be Open to Learning
There is a story about a king who had three faithful successors. Tradition required that a king name his heir at a certain age to maintain order and prevent future family feuds. This wise king, unsure of whom to choose, decided to test their character, wisdom, and loyalty. In those days, elders often spoke inContinue reading “Be Authentic and Be Open to Learning”
Pen it down. 