I find it deeply interesting how sheep can spend their entire lives fearing wolves, only to eventually be consumed by the shepherd. In the same way, chickens in a poultry farm are fed, exercised, and protected—only to be sold or consumed for profit. They are animals, and perhaps they do not possess souls like humans, but the lesson remains profound: not every handshake means congratulations. ❤️
Behind many smiles, there can be hidden pain. This is why we must be mindful of what we eat, what we drink, who we associate with, and how much of ourselves we share with others. ❤️
Unfortunately, these hidden human intentions sometimes extend into relationships, especially marriage. One begins to wonder about the true essence of marriage when couples constantly find themselves at each other’s throats, or when someone fills their partner’s heart with love only to break it later—just like the shepherd who feeds the sheep before the final moment. ❤️
Today, we see rising cases of domestic violence, divorce, and the increasing normalization of co-parenting. Many people can barely tolerate each other anymore. Everyone seems to want freedom until old age arrives. Sadly, this has become so common that even children are beginning to see it as a normal way of life. ❤️
I remember a story told about a woman who was often beaten by her husband in the olden days. She was deeply troubled because her husband was widely known as a gentle and respected man. She could not identify when or how their relationship had deteriorated, so she sought counsel from her mother.
Her mother asked when the threats of physical violence first began. The woman recalled a particular moment when they had a heated verbal altercation. Her mother then gave her a simple piece of advice:
“Whenever he begins to argue, take a cup of water and hold it in your mouth. Do not spit it out until he finishes speaking.”
The daughter tried this approach—and according to the story, it marked the end of their domestic conflicts. ❤️
This story is not meant to justify abuse or encourage anyone to endure violent relationships. Rather, it reminds us to examine ourselves and reflect on how we relate to our partners. Sometimes conflicts arise because boundaries were never set. Other times, the boundaries we create may reflect suspicion or a lack of trust. ❤️
There are moments when wisdom lies in silence, because not every rainwater deserves your bucket. ❤️
The power of being yourself, standing firm, and being realistic in a relationship is incredibly important. Many people guard their hearts carefully, only to have them shattered in marriage by someone who has not yet healed from their own wounds. ❤️
A glass is only dangerous when it is broken. Be careful how you treat people who are kind, gentle, and easy-going. They may appear transparent and fragile like glass, but once broken, the damage can be irreparable. ❤️
My message is simple: never be the cause of someone’s pain. If you cannot make someone better, please do not make them worse. Let empathy and consideration guide how we treat both ourselves and others. ❤️
Finally, remember that you are your own responsibility. Protect your energy. Work quietly. Just as you may fear the wolf in the field, also be mindful of the sheep within the house. This does not mean living in paranoia, but it does mean refusing to lose yourself in any human relationship.
Maka na nkwucha abughi ujo. ❤️
I remain your friend and brother,
Maazi Onuora Obodoechi ❤️
Pen it down. 