My dear children,
Your daddy came from struggle and poverty — with scars, not shortcuts. 💔 But God knew I could carry both the pain and the promise. ❤️
I am writing this letter while listening to my favorite song by Chief Mike Ejeagha, titled Uwa Mgbede Ka Mma. One day, I will play it for you, and you will understand why it speaks so deeply to my heart. ❤️
❤️ To My Sons
My dear sons,
You transformed from boys into young men the day you endured the pain of circumcision. So I speak to you not just as males, but as men. ❤️
Maka na mgbe amuru dike na mba ka amuru ibe ya.
As you grow, beware of the fallacy of false freedom and empty pleasures. The world today celebrates a version of freedom that devalues men and leaves them broke — financially, morally, and spiritually. I am not speaking of the freedom to worship or to travel, but of the so-called freedom that enslaves a man to habits that weaken him.
Take this as an example, my sons: the alcohol industry rarely advertises its products using drunk customers. Instead, they use sober, polished men. That tells you something. Either they are not proud of the end result, or they are not proud of the effect. ❤️ Think deeply. Always question what is presented to you.
So much is happening in our world today that it took courage to bring you into it. That courage came from knowing that there are still men and women of integrity, values, and principles. Those are the standards upon which I am building our home. ❤️
I have ensured your rooms are filled with books — works from great minds, both living and those who have journeyed to the great beyond. Knowledge will be your companion. ❤️
I have also taken time to study skills that will help you stand out. I am even learning the best ways to use artificial intelligence to enhance your abilities — just in case they ever try to limit it. Maka na ngwucha abughi ujo. ❤️
Make your food your medicine.
We now live in an era where treatment and management have replaced prevention. Hospitals were once primarily places of healing; now many illnesses are merely controlled. Eat well. Exercise often. That is why I built a mini gym for you — because the earlier, the better. ❤️
If you learn to control your hunger — for food, sex, and pleasure — and choose discipline over conformity, you will truly live life to the fullest. ❤️
Respect and value women. A woman is a portal for goodness and greatness. But that same portal can lead to the opposite if not treated with honor and respect. ❤️ I have made a list of noble women whose lives you can study, so you will know what to admire and what to seek. If you heed this letter, youthful exuberance will not overtake you.
❤️ To My Daughters
My dear daughters,
The world will tell you many things about power and identity. Be discerning. Not every movement that speaks loudly about women truly protects women. ❤️
I have prepared for you as well — a list of notable men and women, and books that will enlighten you so you can decide for yourselves the kind of women you want to become.
Decency, character, and self-respect should be your garment at all times. ❤️ The more cheaply something is made available, the less it is valued. Remember that. A good dancer knows when to leave the stage.
As a woman, you are strength clothed in grace. You are the pride of your husband, your father, your brothers, your mother — and most importantly, of yourself and your children. ❤️
My children,
I know you will make daddy proud and become valuable members of society. You will question things. You will analyze deeply. You will not merely consume — you will think, you will create. Maka na agu na amu agu. ❤️
This letter is not meant to scare you, but to prepare you. Life is shaped by the choices we make based on the information we have and the wisdom we gather from experience.
You may come prepared, but it is my duty to guide you and train you in such a way that when you grow, you will not depart from sound principles. ❤️
I am carefully working on finding you a good mother — a woman who will imbue you with skills, values, strength, and the deep love I enjoyed from my own mother as a child. ❤️
Until we meet, keep preparing yourselves — especially you, my son, Munachimdinamma. ❤️
I remain your friend and your brother,
Maazi Onuora Obodoechi ❤️
Pen it down. 