Chioma is 28 years old ❤️ She has accomplished almost every dream she ever set for herself—except one: marriage.
She has always been family-oriented. Raised alongside her seven siblings by their single mother after their father passed away at an early age, life forced her into responsibility too soon ❤️
As the “Ada,” she automatically became her mother’s assistant, working side by side with her elder brother, who stepped into the role of man of the house after their father’s death.
From a young age, Chioma was determined to succeed and build a life of her own despite the pain of loss ❤️ She completed her university education, started her own business, and became financially comfortable. She was focused. She was disciplined. She was driven.
She had been in a couple of relationships, but most ended because they felt like threats to the goals she had set for herself. She refused to shrink her dreams for anyone ❤️
But now, society had found its voice. The pressure mounted—especially because she was successful. The popular question echoed around her: “Which man is going to marry a young, beautiful, and successful woman?”
To make matters worse, her younger siblings were all married. Uneasy lies the head that wears the crown ❤️indeed.
She had sacrificed for her siblings. She had sacrificed for herself. Now she longed for her own family—to raise her children with her husband and build a home filled with love ❤️
She attended church faithfully. Pastors, friends, and even her mother tried to introduce her to one man after another, but none of it worked.
The pressure became unbearable ❤️
Ironically, she was the president of the Singles Youth Wing in her church—the oldest among the younger ones. Everyone who joined the group with her had left… because once you are married, you are no longer eligible. And there she remained—the chairperson.
One day, she read Matthew 19:11–12, which explains that marriage is not for everyone, and that being single can be a purposeful gift for serving God ❤️, the explanation she understood but oku di over.
She broke down.
Not because she did not want to serve God—but because she desired completeness. She wanted her own children. She did not want her children to grow up without a father because of her decision ❤️because there are other legit ways to have children but that’s not what she wanted.
Anyway, she wiped her tears and moved on. She continued working on her projects and left everything to God.
Then one hot afternoon in Enugu, craving Cold Stone ice cream, she stepped out casually dressed—short jeans, red polo, hair unpacked though her coiffure was neat ❤️ She wasn’t trying to impress anyone. She was simply being herself.
As she hurried off with her ice cream to get back to work, a young man named Ikenna approached her playfully and pleaded that she share her ice cream with him.
She smiled and replied, “It’s not even enough for me.”
They both laughed ❤️
And just like that, a friendship began. That friendship grew. And in time, Chioma and Ikenna got married ❤️.
This true-life story reminds us that when the time is right, God makes all things beautiful.
Being single is not a curse. It is a season to work on yourself ❤️ Ikenna had his own business and was comfortable. He was not intimidated by who Chioma was or who she could become.
If anyone is afraid of your success, you need to ask yourself a serious question. It is either they have an inferiority complex, or they are afraid of what you can do when you have power ❤️either of them are not good for you.
Marriage is good. But it is important to have a life before you become a wife or a husband.
Chioma was not sleeping around in her twenties. She was building herself. She was building her dreams, had relationships-yes, but never sacrificed her dreams because she was young as many usually claims.
Love is often found in the simplest acts ❤️, in hopeless places if you ask me.
Like I always say, refuse to be desperate because if death does not befall a sacrificed yam, it will definitely germinate. If it doesn’t align with your purpose, let it be.
Stillness is not stagnation. While you are waiting, make sure you are working on yourself ❤️ Marriage is not for everyone—it is for those who desire it and are willing to work it out. If this is not you, singleness is also good but make sure is what you want because our people have a saying, “he who said he wants to live alone, should remember his or her old age.”
Ndi beanyi, “A tuolu omalu omalu, a tuolu ofeke, ofeye isi n’ofia”..
(he who have ears should hear) ❤️
I remain your friend and brother,
Maazi Onuora Obodoechi ❤️
Pen it down. 