What if?
The sound of anything dying is silence.
Silence is a two-edged sword. In certain situations, it depicts power, authority, confidence, and wisdom. At other times, it becomes cowardice, hopelessness, complicity, and a lack of life.
Where has our dignity as humans gone?
Take a look around you and see how false narratives have overtaken us. Couple competition is now the order of the day; the era of cooperation feels far out of reach. Divorce rates are high. Children are being deprived of the opportunity to grow up in loving families. Fathers are demanding appreciation, and mothers are demanding equality. It is now a case of two captains saddling a ship.
Again, look around the country. See how children make money with no trace of any value he or she created. Notice the rising insecurity, with everyone praying it does not get to them. The culture of nwata kpata aku okenye ejegbu onwe ya na ozi.
There has been a gradual loss of the enthusiasm of being in a relationship. Some people may never experience it again because they have been so broken and disappointed by the silence of those who still have values.
The euphoria of being cherished has been extinguished by a transactional relationship mindset. Cash and displays of wealth have become the true confirmation of character and values.
Agwo di na akiriki ooo…
So, what if your silence and docility are the reasons your community’s values and norms are being eradicated by uncultured persons?
What if you speak up and express your needs to your spouse to give your children a conducive home instead of walking away?
What if you say NO to this fallacy of freedom and equality with men and seek equity and respect instead?
The truth is that a lot of people are hurting. Even therapists are going through their own personal struggles—probably showing up because they have to make a living.
And the danger of this hullabaloo and lack of peace lies in the future. The child who grows up without love will struggle for love all his or her life—unless, of course, he or she is fortunate.
My people, the silence we are keeping on issues of relationships, patriotism, character development, and value preservation will definitely hunt us tomorrow.
At last the solution to mending your broken heart, healing from rejection and pain, and becoming a better person lies with you. It is your decision to reset your life.
You deserve happiness and love. But to receive it, you must first love yourself. ❤️🌸
Therefore, you have to speak up if your voice can be heard. Cast your face toward the sunshine, and your shadow will fall behind you. Train up a child in a way that when he grows, he will not depart from it. Stop hurting people and make peace with yourself.
Embrace God and pick yourself up. What if you take just a minute to reflect on these words (read Philippians 4:6–7 and Proverbs 3)? You never know what happiness you might find.
I remain your friend and brother,
Maazi Onuora Obodoechi
Pen it down. 