I recently listened to a video clip of a popular Nigerian celebrity who expressed that he is “scared of getting married.” 🌸❤️ Notably, his fear was not rooted in concerns about infidelity, but rather in the uncertainty of whether he would be able to sustainably provide for his family in the future.
This reflection highlights what fear can do—it robs us of the opportunity to truly live and fully embrace meaningful commitments. 🌸❤️ However, beyond this, there is a broader concern worth examining: the direction many women appear to be taking today, often described under the label of being “woke.” It raises an important question—who introduced this idea, and why has it been so readily accepted without critical reflection?
In my view, Black women remain among the least protected globally, even as conversations across Africa increasingly center on critiques of women, while more pressing continental challenges persist. 🌸❤️ Interestingly, African women are highly intelligent and hardworking, which may also make them more susceptible to certain ideological narratives, including the concept of equality with men.
It is important to approach this carefully. While every human being—regardless of gender—deserves respect and dignity, the notion of absolute equality within the family structure can sometimes create competition rather than cooperation. 🌸❤️ Even among men, there is no absolute equality, which suggests that our differences are natural and structural.
Whether widely accepted or not, there are roles traditionally associated with each gender. As Africans, there is value in embracing a culture that respects both men and women, protects its women from external harm, and safeguards families from destabilizing influences. 🌸❤️
Today, many people are increasingly hesitant about commitment. We now hear distinctions between “traditional” and “modern” marriages, with the latter often characterized by competition and ongoing disputes over roles and authority within the home. 🌸❤️ Unfortunately, the greatest impact of this tension is felt by children, who may grow up learning how to avoid disrespect, but not necessarily how to cultivate respect.
In summary, we must not allow fear of the unknown to prevent us from loving deeply and committing wholeheartedly to our partners. 🌸❤️ It is also time to foster a culture that protects women, reduces unnecessary social media conflicts between men and women, and redirects focus toward building and strengthening our continent.
Most importantly, our children are our future. Let us begin to create environments where they can grow with love, mutual respect, and a strong sense of identity. 🌸❤️
Look before you reap; learn to remain committed if you choose marriage. 🌸❤️
I remain your friend and brother,
Maazi Onuora Obodoechi 🌸❤️
Pen it down. 