What does it truly mean to be humble, or to possess virtues like kindness and gentleness? 🌼 Sometimes, when people hear that someone is humble, they mistakenly assume weakness or foolishness. This often becomes clear when such a person refuses to do something, and others respond with words like, “I thought they said you are gentle, humble, nice…” 💭
But humility, like every other virtue, is not an emotion—you don’t simply feel humble 🌷. It is a decision of the will, expressed through deliberate actions.
There is no doubt that people can appear gentle, humble, or kind, but it is their consistent actions that truly reveal who they are 🌺. Being nice or kind should be a conscious choice—just like the man who tried to save a stinging scorpion. His kindness came from within, with no expectation in return 🌼.
Therefore, do not live your life on autopilot 🌿. People will always push boundaries, and if you allow yourself to be taken advantage of simply because you want to appear humble or kind, then it is time to rethink 🌸.
A father once asked his teenage son during a heated argument, “Why do you think we provide for you?”
The son replied, “Because you love me.” 💕
The father chuckled and said, “Love? My dear son, it is our responsibility to provide for you and your siblings. Our actions are not necessarily based on feelings or on whether you do good or bad. We made a decision to bring you into this world, and our commitment is to raise you to handle your own responsibilities. The love, care, and compassion you receive from us are decisions—not reactions—and they do not depend on you.” 🌷
This may sound harsh, especially in today’s world of gentle parenting, but as our people say, it is always good to tell the bitter kola that it is bitter while still on the tree 🌿.
My point is this: whether with siblings, a partner, parents, or in the workplace, let your actions be guided by intentionality and conscious decision 🌼. As others benefit from you, you should also benefit. Always remember—you are an important part of the equation 🌸.
Appreciation and gratitude from others are beautiful, but do not let them control how you live 🌺. Otherwise, people’s actions—or inaction—will begin to dictate your life.
Finally, strive each day not to always be on the receiving end 🌷. Make a conscious effort to appreciate those who support you, and guide your kindness with wisdom 🌼. In a world where kindness, humility, care, and love are sometimes mistaken for foolishness, be mindful not to let those without love to give stop you from being who you are 🌿.
Continue to be kind. Keep smiling—because when you smile, you feel well 🌸😊
I remain your friend and brother,
Maazi Onuora Obodoechi 🌼
Pen it down. 