Virtually every girl wants to get married. Infact from this part of the country once you are up to 18 yrs , suitors will begin to troop in and out of your house. Ministries and some men of God are not even helping matters. All their prophesies are centred on automatic prosperity and happiness..but the truth is whether you believe it or not some people are not marriable. What is your goal of getting married? Is because your mates are all married,you want a name, you want to have your own kids, escape from family problems and shame, correct your mum’s mistake of marrying your father..whatever be your reason of trying to marry ,pause and think on the following things..are you a man or a woman, what thought have you had before trying to settle down? Ponder on these few points..
1) are you an asset or a liability: many women out there are liabilities to their husbands because the husband have everything they want or need, they tend to forget their own goal in life. You don’t contribute to the welfare of the family. The man is the head of the family but the wife is the neck, without the support of the neck ,do you think the head will achieve anything or even do well?
Make yourself an asset. Make your spouse value you. Don’t plan to be a full time house wife..get a job that can help you be close to your children,you can be a teacher, nurse, doctor etc don’t allow your own dream to die because you get married or because you want to marry a rich man.
Help your spouse grow in whatever he or she is doing..have the mindset of improving your spouse. Don’t marry because you want to be free from stress, life heaviest burden is to have nothing to carry. Before you get married , evaluate yourself and know whether you are an asset or a liability to yourself and the person you want to marry.. whether you are a man or a woman.
2)what kind of parent will you be: many people don’t know that you decide in advance the kind of parent(s) you will be to your children. Will you be the type that curses them the way your own parents did to you?, forgetting how you felt those days your parents do call you names. Many parents are the reason why their children didn’t go far in life. According to Micheal and Debi Pearl, children need a mother who teaches them, not a teacher who doesn’t have the emotional energy to mother them; young men need a father who teaches them to work, not a father too busy working to teach them. The best schooling for children is a good home life not a home that is all school.
If you grew up under parents who doesn’t care.. decide to care for your own children, if your parents treated you well ,be more to your children. Never compare your child with anyone, everyone is unique and different in their own way. Determine to be a good parent to your children to come and a good spouse to your partner to come too. Don’t make your children scared of saying the truth.
Most of the mistakes our parents made and some are still making is punishing their children when they say the truth and warning them when they lie. Without training a child first, discipline is insufficient. Training is the conditioning of the child’s mind before the crisis arises. Training is not discipline, discipline only occurs when we fail to train our children.
3) what do you have for your spouse?: This is a very important question everyone should ask his or her self. In the olden days virginity was a virtue every woman works to keep but in this present generation it is lack of opportunity. How do you expect to build trust when you have lost your dignity. You won’t blame anyone though because many things are happening now that was not happening in the olden days but you still have to be yourself,know what you want, develop self control and self respect..make yourself adorable and respectful. Don’t be like every other person. The two quick ways to failure is taking nobody’s advice and taking everybody’s advice. Many people are still virgins because of their attitude- remember your attitude determines your altitude, it doesn’t end in not knowing a man. If you are a virgin but a nagging wife or husband you will end up destroying your marriage..oh how wonderful it will be that you are a virgin spouse with a good attitude. It doesn’t really ends in being a virgin, you must be a woman of substance, industrious woman, responsible man, caring and understanding father.
Have a surprise package for your spouse, determine to be everything worthwhile to him or her.
4)what does marriage mean to you?:if you enter marriage because you want to be free from family stress, you want to change class, and so on..all of them are good but the main essence of marriage is procreation. Marriage is the avenue for continuing God’s work of creation. It is an opportunity of making life. Marriage is entirely different friendship.. though friendship is necessary in marriage because it is what keeps you and spouse together during the time of stress in marriage. Marriage is a task and as such it is not a dance a child dances with snuff in his hands. Think deeply before venturing into it. Marriage was not created to be divorced, so nothing like, let me try and if it not working out, I will quit. Now that you are single is the best time to think about what you really need in your marriage. Be more concern about the character of your supposed spouse than his or her wealth. Find out what you mean to your suppose spouse,read the warning signs. Don’t marry to divorce..think it through. Thank you.
Pen it down. 